Showing posts with label mentalhealth. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mentalhealth. Show all posts

Thursday, September 3, 2020

How to Embrace Your Emotions to Save Marriage

 



A human being is full of emotions from the day they are born. They have emotions like happiness, anger, sadness, fear, guilt, shyness, and so on. Human emotions are versatile and unpredictable, and they change every moment depending on how each person handles their emotions when they’re looking to gear up with themselves. 
Let us think about a situation, where a person is happy about getting news of a job promotion but at the same point, when he gets to know about his close relative’s demise, he becomes sad. We start memorizing the best time spent with that person.

Everyone has their own set of emotions and a different style of expressing them. Many express their emotions by speaking, whereas a few express them by being silent, and some by way of massive reactions. Even animals have their own set of emotions, although they have their own way of communicating them. Emotions play a crucial role in one’s life. 

Our emotions assist us in many things, such as conveying our message or meaning, providing us with clarity, calming us during difficult times, and making life decisions. Our subconscious mind behaves the same way we would like it to be treated. Therefore, if we give it positive thoughts, it’ll have a positive impact on our health and future thoughts.

To apply this idea, let’s look at the example of a slim girl named Amira. During her college days, she was quite an introvert: she never expressed her feelings, but instead kept them to herself for fear of hurting anyone. How does she feel? What if she’s looking for someone to talk to? She did not think it would be a good idea to express her feelings. She felt that either people would blame her or that she would end up hurting them. She was not confident about what to express, how much she should express, and to whom it should be shared. 

Being a shy girl, Amira never made friends with those whom her shared emotions would be safe. She never spent enough time with her family for them to know her likes and dislikes; she never made herself understood. Instead, she kept herself busy in activities like reading books, painting, journaling, and meditation, etc.. 

Because she always tried to hide her emotions, this caused anger to build up inside her. She used to become furious at the smallest things, like when her parents asked her plan for her marriage. Despite usually being very polite to her parents, she rudely walked away.

One day, she was sitting on the balcony with her parents drinking a cup of coffee. Her parents brought up the discussion of her marriage plans and, surprisingly, this time she was already prepared for it. Yes! After a long discussion with her parents, she made up her mind. But her anger kept bothering her. “How could she manage her marriage if she couldn’t express her feelings?”

Amira thought that maybe discussing things with her partner would help her to get herself out of a place of anger. Perhaps she might find comfort in expressing her feelings. But things were the same even after marriage. Being a new daughter-in-law, her responsibilities increased: her in-laws had expectations for her, and she wasn’t able to manage her anger with her husband; she would get furious every time. She asked herself, why was she unable to share her feelings? What made her so self-conscious? Why did she feel so blank? 

One day, sitting quietly in her room, she wrote down all the questions she had in a diary. What should she do to make it right? She cried for it weighed down her heart. Crying is always the best release for emotion when one’s heart tank is full. When we cry, we make space for new, positive feelings.

Luckily, Amira found a calm and supporting life-partner with whom she was able to express her feelings. He made her feel calm and comfortable. She discussed everything about her anger with her husband. An intelligent man, he asked her to find a state of calm first and then speak out to express whatever was running in her thoughts. He helped her to solve her queries.

In doing so, Amira’s husband gave her a few suggestions:
  • Write down all running thoughts
  • Don’t take everything  personally
  • Learn to adjust and build up interpersonal skills
  • Do something productive 
  • Start expressing yourself  

Amira followed all five pieces of this advice for a continuous 21 days, and guess what? She found herself transformed. Everything takes time to adapt, some more than others. For instance, internalized emotions like anger can take a while, whereas a few emotional releases like crying come naturally. 

Amira’s anger hadn't gone away, but she had learned how to manage it well. This helped her to improve her relationship with her in-laws, her parents, her friends, her husband, and, most importantly, with herself. She started loving herself more. 

In the years that followed, she learned other ways to manage her anger:
  • She started focusing on what made her happy
  • She started respecting everyone’s point of view
  • She started being grateful  
  • She started enjoying her life 
  • Most importantly, she accepted herself

Now, Amira is a more mature and determined person, who takes life’s worries as challenges that she can face gracefully. She thanks God for blessing her with great in-laws, a husband, and both the parents who stood up for her every time. She was no longer overwhelmed by negative emotions; most especially, she had overcome her anger. She was able to manage it now because she wanted to. Like Amira, we can also take control of our emotions.

Emotions have a powerful impact on our minds, health, and system. So, allow your mind and heart to decide which emotions of yours you want to pamper, and which ones to put in the garbage. Let us strengthen ourselves. Most especially, we want to control our emotions in the right manner and not allow anyone to control us.

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Monday, June 22, 2020

THE MIND GAME




Book: THE MIND GAME
Publisher: Hesten
Author: Devika Das
Genre: Non Fiction (Self-Help)
Pages: 203
Rating: 5*
Reading Time for the blog: 5 minutes


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It’s rightly said by someone “that the mind is everything” if it is under our control. Don’t let the mind control us. We know as human beings we’re overwhelmed by our own emotions i.e., happiness, sadness, excitement, etc.

These emotions keep on changing every second depending on the situation. This is very natural for any human being to get angry and to show their different emotions but sometimes when we face emotions like anger, anxiety, stress, and depression; all we feel is that we’re all alone and burst it out in anger which ends up messing up with our image and character.

But this book has caught the attention because of its title “the mind game” which is very captivating and goes well with the contents.


Let us also know a little about the author, the author Devika Das is an award-winning author and poet. Her first book “7 vows of marriage” was published on amazon kindle and the second book is “the mind game” in which she explains how we can master our emotions.


The author has described each section beautifully and in detail how we can manage relationships, manage anger, manage stress, and anger management. We play different roles in our life every day with everyone. It is required to understand each other's values. Thus, how can we capture our divine happiness? What are some tips to be followed to fall in love with ourselves again? Why do we get worried and how can we make it better?


please stop for a moment!

Ask yourself!

What emotion are you having while reading this blog? 

Happy? Sad? Angry? Stress? frustration?

If you are facing any issue related to your mental health then this book is the right pick for you.

calm down!


In today's scenario, stress and depression have become a big topic to talk about whereas, after Sushant Rajput's demise, everyone is talking about these topics. yes! This book makes us understand how to overcome it. one must practice this if facing innumerable dilemmas in daily life.


Everyone is busy running the rat race in meeting their own deadlines etc. we tend to forget that we need to take care of our mental health with physical, social, and intellectual health. we need to understand that If it is not handled well, it can cause us a serious problem.


Every action has an equal or opposite reaction. A human being has a reaction to everything whether it's positive or negative. But not forgetting, everything can be worked if we want to. Like in this book, the author has mentioned about six sections and each section covering its own chapters.


  1. Emotions:- how can we express them.

  2. Analyzing people:- respect an individual’s personality

  3. Live better with less:- self-satisfaction is must

  4. Go happy, go-lucky:- capturing divine happiness

  5. Angry:- speak up

  6. A happy workplace:- how the environment affects us.




Learning from the book:

  1. Never forget to express your feelings when you’re happy.

  2. Always speak out when your heart is full of emotional baggage.

  3. Stop criticizing, accept the challenges.

  4. Anger can be managed by not reacting harshly at the moment.

  5. Self-introspection is a must to master our own emotions.

  6. Happiness is a state of mind which is directly connected with our inner self.

  7. Develop high EQ (emotional quotient) in terms of self-awareness, self-management, social skills, physical health, mental health, and relationship, etc.



This is one of the best self-improvement books which I’ve come across. This book has helped me in improving my emotional stability. I am the one who gets short-tempered easily and faces severe mood swings. I didn't respond appropriately to what the other person was saying but intended to reply which created a mess and ended up arguing at the end.


This book has shifted my focus towards more on a positive attitude. To follow how anger can be managed, check out page no. 153 and 154 from the book. In my opinion, please don't read this book like a story but instead give your time and attention to the book.


Make sure that you put your best efforts in understanding the concept of each chapter, what it is actually conveying, and analyzing it in your daily life to get the best. This is definitely in my to-read list again for a more in-depth detailed understanding.


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